Don’t let work stress ruin your relationship

Today, work stress is a part of life. It gets really worrisome, however, when it begins to take a toll on your relationship. When it comes to relationship busters, work stress has gradually made its way to the top of the list. These tips will help you keep it from ruining your relationship:

Leave work at the office: Work, these days, keeps you glued to your gadgets. You need to choose a time when you can disconnect. Everyone needs to do what it takes to keep their jobs but taking calls or reading mails during meal times, conversations or in bed could make it difficult.

Have some quiet time: When work is stressful, leaving the office every day could feel like retreating from a war zone. While your partner may understand, nobody looks forward to being with a person who is perennially grumpy. When you leave work, have some quiet time to yourself to calm down and then be with him.

Limit the venting out: What is venting out to you might be cribbing to your partner after some time. Cut down on it, avoid repeating the same things and also make a conscious effort to ask and genuinely listen to how his day went.

Balance with positives: It might be difficult to make time but you need to balance the negatives with positives. Spend time being affectionate or doing fun things together. This will maintain the happiness levels in your relationship and also leave you rejuvenated enough to resume work the next day.


Hindu boy, Muslim girl hang to death in UP village

Two minors, a 16-year-old Hindu boy and a 15-year-old Muslim girl, from the same village were found hanging from a tree in Sikrara police station area of UP’s Jaunpur district on Sunday morning. Police suspect that the two were in a relationship and committed suicide thinking their families would not accept it.

The boy, a Class XI student, and the girl, a ninth grader, lived in the same locality of Dudauli village. They eloped about six months ago but were traced by the families and brought back, said police.

Sikrara station officer Arvind Kumar Pandey said it appeared that the two left their homes late on Saturday night but the family members did not notice their absence till their bodies were found hanging from a tree in the village’s burial ground.

“Prima facie it appears to be a case of suicide. The bodies have been sent for post-mortem,” said Pandey. He said police did not find any suicide note.

“The families are not saying anything about the relationship but that (relationship) appears to be the reason behind the incident,” said Pandey.

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Hindu boy, Muslim girl found hanging in Uttar Pradesh village

Two minors, a Hindu boy and a Muslim girl from the same village, were found hanging from a tree in Sikrara police station area of Jaunpur district on Sunday morning. Police suspect that the two were in a relationship and committed suicide thinking their families would not accept it.

The two, students of class 11 and 9 but different schools, lived in the same locality of Dudauli village. They had eloped about six months ago but were traced by the families and brought back, according to police.

Sikrara station officer Arvind Kumar Pandey said it appeared that the two left their homes late on Saturday night but the family members did not notice their absence until the villagers saw their bodies hanging from a tree in the village’s burial ground on Sunday morning.

“Prima facie it appears to be a case of suicide. The bodies have been sent for postmortem and the report is awaited. We would be able to say more after receiving the postmortem report,” said Pandey.

He said police did not find any suicide notes and the family members have also not raised any suspicion.

“The families are not saying anything about the relationship but that (relationship) appears to be the reason behind the incident,” said Pandey.

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Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard Have the Exact Relationship I Want With My Partner

From Redbook

How much I relate to Kristen Bell (particularly as a very short woman attached to a rather tall, funny man) is probably off-putting to those who aren’t as familiar with (or enthusiastic about) the actress and mom of two. For one, I’m not an actress or a mom, so, at first glance, the differences might seem to outweigh the similarities. But when it comes to her outlook on love and marriage, Bell and I are kindred spirits – and her relationship with Dax Shepard is one that I would happily mimic.

Bell has been married to fellow actor Shepard since 2013, and their path to marriage was the first indication I had that the former Veronica Mars star and her husband are the celebrity couple I most identify with when it comes to my own relationship with my fiancé. They began dating in 2007, became engaged in 2010, but put off marrying for several years. As a long-term engaged lady who has been in a relationship for over 7 years, engaged for nearly 5, and is in no rush to walk down the aisle, I admire the fact that Bell, like me, hasn’t centered her life around a wedding.

“We’ve been very vocal about not wanting to be married in a state that doesn’t allow that right to all of its citizens. We’ll wait until California gets on the right side of history,” Bell said in 2012, when asked about her wedding plans. Though Bell and Shepard’s reasoning was political and ethical, mine has been more a matter of life getting in the way of the planning, paying for, and throwing of a wedding. But the point remains the same: The act of getting married isn’t the most important aspect of my or Bell’s relationship.

When the two did eventually tie the knot after the Defense of Marriage Act was overturned in June 2013, Bell “re-proposed” via Twitter and Shepard responded with an enthusiastic “fuck yes.” It warmed my heart, and I’d be lying if I said it didn’t remind me, at its core, of my own engagement story: “Hey, wanna get married?” my sweaty fiancé said to sweaty me after we’d spent 12 hours moving across Brooklyn into a new apartment. “Fuck yes” (or the gist of it) was also my response. Perfectly casual, perfectly us.

Bell and Shepard’s $142 wedding in October of that same year (which Shepard once jokingly referred to as the “world’s worst wedding”) was a courthouse affair, without all the bells and whistles typically associated with Hollywood weddings. But that didn’t stop Bell from getting teary-eyed, and who could blame her? She was marrying her best friend in a ceremony that was just about them and their love for one another. I’ve fielded plenty of opinions regarding my own wedding specifics since I got engaged nearly 5 years ago, and when I do eventually get married, my goal is to make it something that’s more about us than something meant to satisfy other peoples’ expectations – just like Bell did.

And Bell’s emotional response to the casual ceremony didn’t stop Shepard from making fun of her, because if one thing’s certain, it’s that these two know how to make one another laugh – yet another aspect of their silly partnership that I always want to keep in my own relationship.

They know how to have fun with one another, something that’s also yet to change in my long-term relationship (and, ideally, never will). Just watch their rendition of Toto’s “Africa” – filmed while they were, in fact, vacationing in Africa – and try not to smile as you feel the love and joy radiating off of these two. This goofiness, in my opinion, is the surest way to maintain the genuine love and best friendship that helps a marriage go the distance and avoid eventually feeling like a glorified roommate situation, once the so-called “honeymoon period” ends.

Silly videos and playful teasing aside, these two always remind you that the serious stuff matters, too – traditional vows include “for better or worse” for a reason, and being able to anticipate your partner’s needs during disastrous, life-changing moments is key to a successful long-term relationship. For instance, in 2013, Bell told Redbook an emotional story about the time she surprised her then almost-husband by showing up, heavily pregnant, at his terminally ill father’s bedside (a story that had previous been shared by Shepard via his blog):

“We finished shooting [House of Lies] a day early, and this feeling came over me that Dax needed me. So I got on a place, without telling him, and walked into the hospital room. And sure enough, it had been a bad day and Dax and his dad had gotten some rough news. Two days later, his dad passed away. I was meant to be there.”


The Real Reason You’re Unlucky in Love, According to Science

That stereotypical break-up line (you know the one: “It’s not you, it’s me”) may not actually be true.

When figuring out whether a new relationship will work, people tend to focus on a potential partner’s negative traits-even if he or she actually has many positive qualities, according to researched published late last year in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin but making the rounds now. In fact, just one or two negative qualities can be enough justification to stop seeing that person.

“We have a general tendency to attend more closely to negative information than we do to positive information,” Gregory Webster, one of the study’s authors and an associate professor of psychology at the University of Florida, said in a statement released Monday.

The study, conducted by researchers from the University of Florida, Western Sydney University, Indiana University, Singapore Management University, and Rutgers University, examined information from six independent studies to determine the top relationship deal breakers and the effect they have on the formation of romantic relationships. The top deal breakers, in no particular order, were unattractiveness, unhealthy lifestyle, undesirable personality traits, differing religious beliefs, limited social status, differing mating strategies, and differing relationship goals.

Interestingly, the findings show that women and people in committed relationships are generally more sensitive to deal breakers than other segments of the population. Friendships, on the other hand, are not as strongly affected by negative traits. But some deal breakers, like dishonesty, are universally avoided.

“Things that can harm are generally more important [to pay attention to] than things that can help you,” Webster said. But it’s important to note that what’s considered a deal breaker for some may be a deal maker for others. For example, some individuals may be attracted to an impulsive person-others will prefer someone more predictable.

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Confessions To Mom #NoFriendLikeMom

If there was something you would confess to your mother, what would that be? We invited a few people to do the same, and realised something deeper. Is there something wrong with the way we have always looked at our relationship with Mom?

This Mother’s Day, Blush urges you to try something different. Make a new best friend. It may change your life.


“Rahul created an emotional pressure on Pratyusha & killed her”, Pratyusha’s mother [Video]

It has been a year since TV actress Pratyusha Banerjee passed away. And recently at the press conference of her upcoming film, Pratyusha’s mother Soma Banerjee, spoke about her daughter and Rahul Raj Singh’s relationship


Gavin Rossdale Dating German Model

Rocker Gavin Rossdale has reportedly embarked on a new romance with a German model 24 years his junior.

The Bush frontman has been linked to 27-year-old Sophia Thomalla, who he was photographed kissing after a dinner date in London earlier this week (ends31Mar17), reports

“It’s very early days but Gavin is really taken by Sophia,” a source tells Britain’s The Sun. “They met on the touring scene and there’s plenty of chemistry. They’re having fun and the relationship has the potential to turn serious.”

Gavin has yet to comment on the love life developments, which emerge weeks after the Brit played down reports suggesting he had enjoyed a relationship with golfer Tiger Woods’ ex-wife Elin Nordegren.

The singer revealed mutual pals hooked them up, and although they had been in touch digitally, they never actually set up a date.

“A friend was, like, ‘You have to meet Elin, she’s amazing,” he told The Sun in early March (17). “So I texted her a couple of times to say hello. She lives in Florida. She’s a really great girl. But I’ve never met her.”

Gavin, 51, has been single since parting ways with Gwen Stefani in August, 2015 after 13 years of marriage. The former couple, parents to three sons, finalised their divorce last year (16).

He is also dad to model Daisy Lowe, who is just a few months older than his rumored new girlfriend Sophia.

The German beauty is no stranger to rocker relationships – she previously dated Rammstein star Till Lindemann, and wed Andy LaPlegua from Norwegian band Icon of Coil in March, 2016, although it appears that marriage was short-lived.


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सागर आणि क्षितीजाच्या लग्नाचा आज दुसरा वाढदिवस होता.. सागरच्या घरी लग्नाच्या वाढदिवसाची तयारी सुरू होती.. लग्नाचा जणू काही पहिला वाढदिवस असावा, अशी तयारी सुरू होती.. सागर आणि क्षितीजानं सुट्टी घेतली होती.. बाहेर जाण्याचा काही प्लान नव्हता.. आई-बाबांसोबत घरीच वेळ घालवायचा, छान गप्पा मारायच्या, असंच सागर आणि क्षितीजानं ठरवलं होतं.. संध्याकाळी क्षितीजाचे आई-बाबा आणि काही इतर नातेवाईक येणार होते.. त्यासाठी क्षितीजा दुपारीच थोडी खरेदी करायला बाहेर गेली होती.. सागर बेडरुममध्ये बसून लग्नाचा अल्बम पाहात होता.. अल्बमची पानं पलटता पलटता सागर काही वर्षे मागे गेला.. भूतकाळातील काही गोष्टी त्याला आठवू लागल्या..


चार वर्षांपूर्वीची गोष्ट…

“शरयू, ऐक ना तू माझं.. सर्वकाही ठिक होईल.. मी करतोय ना प्रयत्न..?” सागर शरयूला समजावत होता..

“काय ऐकू सागर..? कित्येक महिने मी हेच ऐकतेय.. प्रयत्न करतोय.. अरे पण काय होतंय त्याने..? काहीही झालेलं नाहीये..” शरयूला सागरचं काहीही ऐकून घ्यायचं नव्हतं..

“मग काय ठरवलंस तू..?” सागरनं शांतपणं विचारलं..

“आपण यापुढं सोबत राहू शकत नाही.. आपलं स्टँडर्ड ऑफ लिव्हिंग खूप वेगळं आहे.. मी खूप फोकस्ड आहे.. मला खूप पुढे जायचंय.. तुझं प्रोफेशन खूप वेगळं आहे.. दोघांच्या स्टेटसमध्ये खूप फरक आहे..” शरयू म्हणाली..

“शरयू, तू सरळ का नाही सांगत की मी तुझ्या योग्यतेचा नाही.. माझी लायकीच नाही..” सागर उद्विग्नतेनं म्हणाला..

“असेल.. तसंही असेल.. पण आपण सोबत नाही शकत नाही..” शरयू थंडपणे म्हणाली..

“शरयू, मी नाही राहू शकत तुझ्याशिवाय.. माझं तुझ्यावर खूप प्रेम आहे.. प्लीज मला समजून घे.. आपल्या आठवणी, आपण पाहिलेली स्वप्नं.. प्लीज एकदा सर्व आठवून बघ..” सागर समजवण्याचा प्रयत्न करत होता..

शरयूवर याचा कोणताही परिणाम झाला नाही… शरयूनं टेबलवर ठेवलेली तिची बॅग उचलली आणि ती तिथून निघून गेली… बॅग उचलताना धक्का लागल्यानं एक फोटोफ्रेम पडली होती… सागरच्या स्वप्नांचा आणि काचांचा चुराडा झाला होता.. फ्रेममधील फोटोकडे सागर पाहात होता… त्या फोटोतील व्यक्ती कायमची त्याला सोडून दूर निघून गेली होती.. सागरच्या अश्रूंचा बांध फुटला होता.. तेव्हापासून सागरला कोणी मनापासून हसताना पाहिलंच नाही..

शरयू सोडून गेल्यावर सागर फारसा कुणासोबतही बोलायचा नाही.. ऑफिसमधून घरी आणि घरातून ऑफिस, इतकाच काय तो प्रवास व्हायचा.. आई-बाबांना सागरची काळजी वाटू लागली.. एकुलता एक मुलगा बोलतच नाही, मन मोकळं करत नाही, यामुळं त्यांची चिंता वाढू लागली.. दिवस सरकू लागले तसा सागर धक्क्यातून सावरु लागला.. मात्र तरीही अचानक शरयूची आठवण झाली की पुन्हा मनावरची जखम भळभळून वाहू लागायची..

काही दिवसांनी सागरसाठी एक स्थळ आलं.. सागरच्या आई-वडिलांना मुलगी आवडली.. सागरला या सगळ्यात रस नव्हता.. पण आई-बाबांसाठी त्यानं लग्नाला होकार दिला.. क्षितीजासोबत सागरचं लग्न झालं.. अतिशय मनमिळाऊ, घराला बांधून ठेवणारी, सर्वांमध्ये रमणारी मुलगी सून म्हणून मिळाल्यानं सागरचे आई-बाबा आनंदात होते.. सागरच्या मनात मात्र अद्याप शरयूच्या आठवणी होत्या…

“तुम्ही निघताय का ऑफिसला..? आपण सोबत निघूया का..?” लग्नानंतर ऑफिसला जाताना क्षितीजानं विचारलं..

“नाही.. मला थोडं काम आहे वाटेत.. तुला उशीर होईल.. तू निघ..” सागरनं क्षितीजाला टाळण्याचा प्रयत्न केला..

“मी थांबेन.. काही प्रॉब्लेम नाही..” क्षितीजानं प्रेमानं म्हटलं..

“मला निघायला अजून वेळ आहे.. मग मला एका कामासाठी उलट्या दिशेला जायचंय.. तू प्लीज जा.. उशीर झाला..” सागरनं क्षितीजाला सांगितलं..

“ओके.. चालेल..” सागर आपल्याला टाळत असल्याचं क्षितीजाला ऐव्हाना समजलं होतं… क्षितीजा घरातून निघाली..

क्षितीजा बस स्टॉपवर पोहोचली.. बराच वेळ बस येत नव्हती.. रिक्षा पकडायचा विचार करुन क्षितीजा स्टॉपवरुन थोडी पुढे आली.. तेवढ्यात सागर तिथून बाईकवरुन निघून गेला.. क्षितीजानं सागरला जाताना पाहिलं.. सागरनं आपल्याला टाळल्याचं क्षितीजाच्या लक्षात आलं होतं.. नव्या घरात पाऊल ठेवताना क्षितीजा मनात अनेक स्वप्नं घेऊन आली होती.. मात्र ज्याच्यासोबत आयुष्य घालवायचं, तोच क्षितीजाला टाळत होता.. क्षितीजा आणि सागर सगळ्यांसाठी पती पत्नी होते.. मात्र त्या दोघांमध्ये कोणतंही नातं तयार झालं नव्हतं.. सागर असं का वागतो, हेच क्षितीजाला कळतं नव्हतं होतं..

“हॅलो क्षितीजा..” ऑफिसमध्ये असताना एक दिवस सागरच्या आईचा फोन आला होता..

“हा.. बोला ना आई.. काय झालं..?” क्षितीजानं विचारलं..

“सागरला पॅरालॅसिसचा अटॅक आला आहे.. आम्ही त्याला हॉस्पिटलमध्ये घेऊन आलोय..”, सागरच्या आईला रडू कोसळलं होतं..

लग्नाला अवघे काही महिने झालेले, त्यात आतापर्यंत एकदाही पतीशी न झालेला संवाद आणि आता त्यात अचानक बसलेला मानसिक धक्का यामुळे क्षितीजा हादरुन गेली होती. काय करावे, काय बोलावे, हेच तिला सुचत नव्हतं..


– तीन फुल्या, तीन बदाम

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First Published on March 31, 2017 1:00 am


Dating tips for single parents

Being a single parent means juggling countless responsibilities in your life, non-stop. A relationship might feel like too much on your plate, but how do you quell your own need to be loved? These tips might help making dating easy for you, as a single parent.

Don’t rush: Rushing into something will only confuse you and you will carry too much baggage into your relationship. Whether you’re separated, divorced or have lost a partner, you need some time to come to terms with your situation. You will know when the time is right.

Be honest about your needs: Single parents need to first decide on their needs, which are not negotiable. Do you want a relationship, which eventually involves your kids, casual dating, or a no-strings-attached arrangement? None of these are bad needs unless they are not clear to you or the people you meet.

Date someone who understands your life: Not many people will understand what a complicated life you lead. Your time will be taken up looking after your kids and raising them. Date someone who understands that you might not always have the time or mental bandwidth for them, even if it is simply because you want some ‘me’ time.

Tell your children the right way: Children need stability and the relationships they form ahead will be based on what they grow up seeing. Essentially, when things begin to get serious, consider getting to know your children’s opinion and easing them into understanding your relationship. If they haven’t warmed up to the one you love, don’t push it or give up either. Take things slow, especially with multiple kids. Each one needs to be handled differently.

Tell the co-parent: You might argue that who you date is not their business anymore. But openness helps breed a civil atmosphere, which is important for raising your children. There’s no code that dictates when, how and whether or not you should tell your ex. Simply follow your instinct.